Today’s post is both for Karen‘s Weekending update and for Carole‘s Ten on Tuesday round-up:

I had a relaxing Memorial Day weekend:

1. I sat outside for four sunsets in a row. (This looks more light than it actually was.)

2. I progressed on my knitting after a few setbacks. Sometimes reading the pattern carefully helps: For instance, did you know that row 101 is not the same as row 1? Or that put a yarn over in between two picked up stitches is not the same as put a yarn over every two picked up stitches. On to the lace edging!
3. I finished one book and put some serious mileage into a second one, which I picked up on my trip to the library Saturday.
4. I blew a lot of bubbles. Sometimes there were children around to enjoy them. Other times they were just for me.

5. I made strawberry fool for dessert.
6. Rudi and I went swimming at the local outdoor pool, which opened for the season this weekend.
7. I took myself out for teatime at a new-to-me cafe along the waterfront. They have streetside garage doors that roll up and tasty French desserts.

8. I listened to a Beach Boys cover band and picnicked with friends by the river.
9. I watched a couple stages of the Giro with Rudi and finished my first cycling challenge of the spring (30 miles in 30 days).
10. Rudi and I harvested the first strawberries from our garden. We ate the initial two on the spot.

The weekend began on the right note with the first Friday night concert of the summer at Yards Park. We broke in my new picnic blanket (thanks, Mum and Dad) and closed down the park, lingering first at one street corner, then another, before bidding our friends adieu for the night. Rudi and I biked home along the Mall, arriving back at the Burrow just after midnight.

Saturday was Rudi’s birthday, which he planned to spend much of on a bike ride. That meant I got to sleep in and then get some reading and some chores done before he came home. We’d invited some friends out for pizza, so after dodging a downpour, we met up with them at the restaurant. We arrived during the dinner rush, but John and Nicole had grabbed a table, so we sat amidst the families and then outlasted them, eventually ordering dessert (which I’d hoped would happen, since I hadn’t baked a cake for Rudi).

This morning, we got up early, since Rudi was hoping to find strawberries at the market. We did, along with these gorgeous, fragrant peonies (and some other things). We watched the David Letterman interview on CBS Sunday Morning and then the final 15 kilometers of the Giro. I dozed for a while. Eventually, Rudi headed out to a picnic with his ski team, and I got on the bike and went to Georgetown. I sat outside and read, returned some library books, hunted in vain for ducklings along the canal (although I did see goslings, turtles, fish, cormorants, cardinals, purple finches, and a great blue heron, flying awkwardly overhead), bought a snack at Dog Tag Bakery, and talked to my folks while sitting canal-side. I stopped at Trader Joe’s for a few items (it’s that rare between-terms period that meant that the store wasn’t crowded on a Sunday evening) and went to the garden to water and plant some potatoes and a few onions before returning home, where I spent the evening reading, watching Battle Creek on tv, and working on my shawlette.

It was a good weekend.

Weekending along with Pumpkin Sunrise.

My grandmother, Muriel Ottley Carmichael, died on April 17 at the age of 94. I made it home in time to hold her hand for much of her final day and was, with my folks, there with her when she died.

Below is what I read at her funeral:

The door was always unlocked and the cookie jar was always full at Gramma’s house. Okay, that’s not totally true. Sometimes it was a pie tin or the cake carrier. And, on rare sweltering August days, you might have to content yourself with ice cream because it was just too warm to turn the oven on. But if she was home, you were welcome in her house. Family members and friends, both hers and ours, were always greeted with a smile and something sweet and a cup of tea or coffee.

That’s actually how she met Grampa. She was volunteering at the canteen that served refreshments to the soldiers stationed in England one night when they were holding a dance. The enlisted men had decided to harass their higher-ups by not letting them get a full dance in. So every time an officer would start dancing with a young woman, an enlisted man would cut in. Gramma said she’d never been so popular, and clearly she caught the eye of at least one serviceman. When a young Frank Carmichael asked her if she’d like to go out, she, a proper young British woman, quickly said that she was busy. The next time she was working at the canteen, he asked her about what she’d been up to the night she’d turned him down for. Forgetting her lie, she told him she’d stayed in. When he called her out on it, she felt bad enough to accept a date. But she did say that at the end of the night, she abandoned him at her gate and rushed inside so her family didn’t know she’d been seeing an American G.I., something frowned on in England at the time.

He was clearly smitten, and so was she, because in 1945, she married him, and the next year, she left everyone else she knew and loved, boarded the Queen Mary, and sailed to the United States to begin a new life.

Gramma and Grampa made a good pair, both in business and in life: With their service station, Grampa was mechanically gifted and a people person, two excellent characteristics for running a repair business, and Gramma, who was so smart, was able to use the skills she gained as a clark in the bank during the war to keep his books in such excellent shape that she was once complimented by an IRS agent during an audit. In life, Grampa brought a ready-made social circle of siblings, cousins, coworkers, and army buddies to my grandmother, who was eager to meet new people. Surrounded by people like Aunt Queenie, Uncle Bubby, Phyll and Earl, George and Georgia, Ellen and Andy, Billy and Jeannette, and later Terry and Larry, Ellie, and Aunt Skip, Gramma found a tribe in which to bring up Uncle David and Mum.

And it was into that tribe of people that they brought Dad and Mary Alice and Lally, William, Josh, and me.

Gramma would never have described herself as the life of the party, but I suspect any party she missed would have been lacking. She was enthusiastic about spending time with her loved ones, had a dry sense of humor that invited the target to join in the laughter, and was good at drawing out the quiet and the shy, since she sometimes felt that way herself. I noticed over the years that while Grampa ran a lively group around the pool table, Gramma was the true north that we naturally gravitated back to.

Mum and Uncle David both struck out on their own paths, as Gramma and Grampa hoped they would. Their journeys took them far and wide – to Florida and Oregon and Virginia, among other places – and afforded them opportunities to swim with dolphins and meet the President. And along the way, Gramma and Grampa were so proud of what their children were accomplishing.

When she wasn’t with friends, she enjoyed the beach, bird-watching, playing cards and Scrabble, and, later on, spending time with Mum & Dad’s cat, Chloe, who adopted Gramma as her person.

She loved to read. When she was a girl she’d bring a book as a gift when invited to a birthday party, but unbeknownst to the recipient, she’d gotten it a couple days early and read it first. As an adult, she loved cozy mysteries, and would visit the library twice a week to pick up a couple books. During the 11-day power outage the family suffered a few years back, she remarked, I don’t know what people who don’t read do. How do they keep from being bored?

Her enjoyment of crossword puzzles also was well known. I think part of the reason she liked living with Mum and Dad so much was that they had the internet and, therefore, unfettered access to an unlimited number of puzzles. She had a vast knowledge of trivia due, in part, to her puzzles, and although she couldn’t name you any of his hits, she could tell you that Snoop Dogg was a rapper and that internet commerce was a dot.com even if she’d never bought a single item online. She did like to tease us when we couldn’t help her fill in the blank squares in her puzzles. I expect you to know these things, she’d exclaim. What’s the point of having smart grandchildren (or children), if they can’t answer basic questions, like the heavyweight boxing champion during the Grover Cleveland’s first presidency. (It’s John Sullivan, in case you were wondering.)

Somehow, I thought it wouldn’t be difficult to pull together the basics of Gramma’s life, favorite stories, and my thoughts about what I’m going to miss about her. But as I wrote that, I started to panic. There is not enough room or enough time to share everything I want to. And what I’m going to miss about her is every single one of those things.

Josh and I loved to spend time with Gramma. When we were kids, she and Mum liked to go shopping together, which, when we accompanied them, occasionally ended at Friendly’s, with a scoop of ice cream with jimmies for me and French fries for Josh and Mum and a cheese Danish for Gramma. Gramma was our main babysitter, sometimes at her house, and sometimes at ours. She played Go Fish. She took us to the playground. She took us to the beach with her friend Ellie. She was there when the Christmas tree fell over on Josh and me. She was there to tell me that my other grandmother had had a heart attack and wasn’t going to make it and for me to sob in her lap. She was there when Mum got sick when Dad was away. She was there when Mum and I fought to assure both of us that we’d get through my awful teen years. She was there for school plays and cream cheese and jam sandwiches and sport meets and making chocolate chip cookies and jelly rolls.

As we reached our adult years, Josh and I still sought out her company. Josh took her to wineries and to Newport. She and I shared meals – summer lunches on the shore when I was still in college, weekday lunches at my apartment after I’d graduated. Saturday lunches with whomever was around at hers. Weekday dinners, and after Grampa died, old movies on videos I’d checked out from the library. After we both moved away, we’d call her regularly. Sometimes she’d be in a chatty mood and you could keep her on the phone for a while. In later years, though, the conversations were shorter and often centered around when we (individually or with Matt and Rudi) would next be home.

I’m having a hard time putting my brain around the fact that she’s gone. Gramma spent the last few years telling us all that she’d lived too long. Every time we responded that she hadn’t, that she couldn’t die, that we still needed her. Because we did. Because we still do. Because, I suspect, we always will.

Gramma was not a big woman, but the hole she’s left in our lives looks enormous right now. Life – and we – will go on, and that’s what Gramma would have wanted most. But her physical absence from our lives is going to be hard to fathom for a while.

There’s a scene in The Holiday where Cameron Diaz’s character says to Jude Law’s, “We won’t say good-bye. We’ll just say be seeing you. Because we will.” Be seeing you, Gramma. We’ll miss you.

I took an unprecedented two and a half weeks off from the blog because I couldn’t bring myself to say that Gramma was dying and then because I couldn’t bring myself to say that she had died. And, even now, writing this makes me feel nauseous and weepy.

But Gramma, who had said good-bye to nearly everyone and everything when she moved to the United States, was impatient with leave-taking. It made her sad and she saw no reason to wallow in it, when lingering wouldn’t make things easier. She was always pushing people who had long journeys before them to get on the road. “Get going,” she’d say, “Get on your way.” She would not appreciate my inability to unstick myself from my grief. My brother says she was the best person in the family for telling him to get over himself (even though I doubt very much she ever used that exact phrasing). So with the caveat that I am still remarkably sad and that I’m having a hard time getting going, I am back here to write some more about life and what’s going on around me.

This past weekend, I had the sort of weekend that Gramma loved to hear about — chock full of events. And I still have half a trip to Budapest to share, as well as posts about the everyday beauty around me and what I’m reading and knitting. But maybe I’ll try to come up with some more Gramma stories and some pre-digital photos, because I’d like to share more of her with you.

It’s the final ski racing weekend of the season, so I’m on my own again. Here’s what I’m hoping the weekend holds for me:

• Knitting on my new Sock Madness pattern.
• Spending time outside.
• Uploading photos from Hungary.
• Submitting my Errandonnee report.
• Tackling laundry mountain.
• Listening to an audiobook.
• Buying cat litter.
• Shopping at the farmers market.
• Attending the Hometown Yarn Party.
• Taking a yoga class.

How about you? What do you hope to do this weekend?

Today’s Ten on Tuesday topic is Ten Things I Am Looking Forward to Right Now:

1. My upcoming trip to Hungary.
2. Our friend’s birthday party tomorrow evening.
3. The return of volleyball next week. (A snow day means the venue is closed, so no game today.)
4. Vegetables. (The 4-day weekend involved an awful lot of delicious, tasty carbs and now I’m jonesing for some healthy fare.)
5. Sock Madness. (Starting March 1)
6. The Ninja Book Swap I signed up for. (Buying presents for — and receiving them from — random strangers on the internet is surprisingly satisfying.)
7. Picking up my books from the library. (The Georgetown Branch was closed 2 1/2 days for a broken water pipe, 1 day for the holiday, and 1 day for the snow.)
8. Spring flowers. (Seeing the snowdrops last week — now buried under five inches of actual snow — was too tantalizing and is exacerbated by Twitter pictures of magnolias blooming in Louisiana.)
9. Pi(e) Day. (Rudi may or may not be in town, but I feel like it needs celebrating anyway this year.)
10. Rearranging our living room. (Rudi and I talked about it this weekend and are on board with the first major furniture shift in ages.)

How about you? What are you looking forward to right now?

Because of weather predicted in Pennsylvania, where Rudi coaches skiing on the weekend, we decided the smart idea was for him to spend Saturday night out there, rather than making the trip back to D.C. in what could have been treacherous conditions.

That, of course, meant I had even a few more hours to fill myself.

I did not have to fill it all myself, of course. Yesterday, Sarah and I met up for milkshakes (and lunch) at Ted’s Bulletin. Sarah opted for a more traditional burger and fries, while I was delighted to discover they’d not yet sold out of the mythical cinnamon rolls they billed as being “as big as your head.” I’d always wondered if that was hyperbole. I’m here to tell you it’s not:

That’s a dinner plate, folks, and the icing arrived in a gravy boat. I made it around that first outer ring yesterday at the restaurant, through part of the second as a late-night snack, and finished it off as brunch today. Not surprisingly, I was very excited to eat some vegetables this evening.

Sarah was not the only one to take pity on my lonely existence. Susan and Phillip invited me over early this evening to hang out with them and their children. We read stories, built train tracks, and caught up on things.

I also filled my time with reading from Signed, Sealed, Delivered and Neil Patrick Harris’ Choose Your Own Autobiography, the format of which was so diverting that it caused my metro stop to disappear. (I swear I looked up, noticed I only had one more stop to go, got off at it, and discovered it was the stop after where I needed to be.) I knit a little on my cowl, although less than I wanted to. However, as it turns out, there may be an error in the pattern, so a lack of progress was less devastating than it might have been otherwise.

I broke in a new lounging cardigan. It’s a long, oatmeal-colored hoodie made of cotton and cashmere that I picked up on Friday (along with a new pair of pj’s) at a deep, deep discount from TJ Maxx. One of the nice things about knitting is that I know how much yarn costs, and let’s just say I got a really good deal.

I spent quite a bit of Saturday night on Netflix. I discovered a couple episodes of Leverage I’d somehow missed over the years; started a new series, The Fosters, about a two-mom house and the brood of children living with them (biological, adopted, and foster); and Rent, which, in retrospect, was a poor choice for a winter night on my own. (On a related note, I bought more tissues today.)

I went to the farmers market, the highlight of which was frozen raspberries that I have not yet decided what I’m going to do with. I may save them for something birthday’ish next month.

I took myself on a nearly 6-mile walkabout, stopping by the library to pick up Ms. Marvel along the way and enjoying the nice weather. (We did not get any of the snow that hit the northeast yesterday, and by today it was 50.)

This evening, Rudi helped me get the bin out of the closet I’m hoping to relocate the ornament boxes into. That process prompted a bit of an organizing/cleaning spree for both of us, so putting the ornaments away will have to wait for tomorrow. I’m looking forward to spending some quality time with him then.

Weekending along with Pumpkin Sunrise.