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January 4, 2009

new year’s resolution
posted by soe 11:23 pm

I’ve been thinking about it — for five days now, at least — and I’m feeling pretty confident that I’ve come up with a good resolution for 2009:

I hereby resolve to entertain more this year.

Yes, that is too a serious resolution.

No, I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all…

Here’s why:

Rudi and I have lived here for … six years now. We have a solid group of friends now. We have groups we belong to. It’s nice to spend time with these people, and, yes, while I can always suggest to Sarah that it would be fun to go have grilled cheese and tomato soup one night or to Amani that we should meet for a cup of cocoa, it would be even nicer (and certainly more affordable) if I could just toss out the odd, “Hey, why don’t you stop by tonight/Saturday/the next time you’re in Dupont Circle?”

But we can’t.

Because Rudi and I live a suburban lifestyle in an urban apartment: we’ve accumulated too much stuff. So first we need to pare down some.

Then we need to reliably keep the place tidy. We are terrible about that, particularly because there isn’t a place for everything, so the incentive is low… (See above.)

And then we can have folks over — to watch Sense and Sensibility and drink tea out of all my new tea pots and tea cups… to play board games… to knit… to just hang out.

So, I reiterate: I’d like to entertain more this year. I’m thinking twelve times doesn’t seem unreasonable over the course of the year…

Do you have any goals/resolutions for the new year?

Category: life -- uncategorized. There is/are 3 Comments.

That’s a goal that forces you to keep a few others as well… decluttering, keeping up with the house, grocery shopping regularly enough to have anything on hand…

Comment by Sarah 01.06.09 @ 7:49 am

That’s such a great resolution. As we visited family and friends over the last few weeks, I found I kept thinking — why don’t we do this more often? The conversations over tea, boardgames, watching TV in front of the fireplace…just being together was such a gift. It doesn’t have to be fancy. The important thing is to make time to do it. 🙂

I posted a few of my goals on my blog today. I think my theme this year is balance, making sure I have enough solitude to read and write (despite what I just wrote, above!). Happy New Year to you and Rudi.

Comment by Debby 01.06.09 @ 7:41 pm

Sarah, that’s exactly it. I hate cleaning and I don’t particularly want to declutter. But I love seeing my friends and I so want to mean it when I tell people, “Oh, just drop by anytime…” So if I can use the latter to encourage the former, everyone wins.

Debby, I know! It feels like it used to be so easy when we were younger. Why do we make it so much harder than it has to be? But finding that equilibrium between casual and formal, between solitude and activity is crucial to keeping our heads healthy, as you write.

Comment by soe 01.07.09 @ 1:33 am